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The main article is perceived smacking as bad parenting with autistic kids. "If the child is hurting others he is not to be smack". A Autistic kids need boundary's especially if they place them selves into dangerous situations. Human nature is simple if you fall of your bike how cautious do you get when you ride it again . Simple disciple delived and a sharp clear message and clean cut directions is the only way my autistic child responds No outbreaks in 6 months and finding out he only chucks a tantrum when he is with a professional behavior counselor
Hi, I am a physical therapist assistant & i've been working with autistic children in an out patient setting. Physical therapy could help your children. It teaches them structure and when they go home they have to be structured as well. In my outpatient clinic we use a schedule board per patient with pictures of the exercises/activities they are expected to do. They are each numbered & provide visual feedback. I tell parents that have a hard time with their children to provide a schedule similar to the one we provide except at home it has to consist of activities of daily living. Each task will be rewarded if done correctly. Always use positive reinforcement! Hope this helps! :)
Here is the problem, at school there are many sets of eyes to take over for a teacher who has to go to the bathroom or assist another child. They never have to go pick up medicine or break there schedule for some reason beyond there control. My son screams when the radio makes an odd noise. He lays on the floor and howls. It got so bad once the cops were called.
If you have a kid with autism all you can do is the best you can do. Nobody has all the answers. My son is such a handful that when they have a field trip I have to go on it just to tend to my son or he can't go. My husband and I no longer care what people think of us or our sons behavior . We are use to being called names and being left out. My peace comes from knowing that I love my child and that I am doing the best I can.
Knowing that the teachers and other parents can not deal with my child has made me relax and judge myself less. At least I know I am not the only one who is overwhelmed. I do not not know what the future holds but I hope it's better.Lynn - Good luck.. I know it's not easy.. keep up the fight and know that not everyone is judging you badly, and it may look like it when your child has a bad scene as they are surprised by it, but afterward I bet a lot of those folks that stared are wishing they'd have realized what was going on and helped you, or just didn't stare at all.
I have a 11 year old son who is autistic, and I have a hard time displaing him and getting him to pay attention to me when I ask him something or tell him something.i agree with you.i also have an 11yr old son when i am talking to him he puts his head down or looks at the wall.what can i do?
This article was extremely helpful to me. I was searching for an answer to the problem that I have with my son. It is so hard when you really don't know how to handle an autistic child. I'm glad I discovered your website!
I have a 8 year old boy that is autistic I am trying to potty train him because he can do 1 but not # 2. I would like some advice on what I can do. He have his good time but boy he have his bad days where I just want to scream. I use time out to punish him it work sometimes when I tell him to sit for five min He scream, kick, bite, and pinch doing all that I still have him sit there until his time is up. I just want answer to punish and potty train.My son would have accidents with #2. He would be too focused on his computer and wait too long. Our behavior specialist offered "Sneaky Poops." (My son was 9) Just draw a game board on a piece of paper with square spaces in 2 rows. One row for your son and one row for Sneaky Poops. (Sneaky Poops looks like a poop with a happy face.) Each time your son doesn't get to the toilet for #2, Sneaky Poops moves a space on the board. Each time your son gets to the toilet for #2, he moves a space on the board. Let's see who wins. There can be an inexpensive price/privilage or reward at the end. It worked quickly for us. We never finished the game. :)My 11 year old has been potty trained for about 2 years now. I know it can be VERY frustrating. We eventually started a program where, every 20 minutes (or however long) we made him go try to potty. Since I am used to his potty "habits", I knew how long in between diaper changes it used to be, so about 30 minutes is what we used. I would make him sit on the potty for 5 minutes each time (or less if needed). If he went #1, he was praised and we let him go play. #2 was also more difficult. When we started this experiment, he would go #1, but wait to go into his room and go in his pull up for #2... When he did go #2 in the potty, we gave him a little treat (we have little sugar-free candies for him). After about a year of trying, he was successfully potty trained. Now he is 11 and still has accidents once in a while, but what kid doesn't :)My son was potty trained at 4. It was difficult. We managed to make him pee, but he will not poop. But one day he went himself! without our help, it was unexpected. You could try using a doll to show him how the doll poops, by squeezing stuff out of the doll in the toilet, it might help. Also note the time of day he routinely poops and target that time. Giving plenty of fibrous food and fluids will regulate it. Warm drinks like milk are best.
My autistic son needed extra supervision, he would physically hurt other children. He was in special needs daycare, that didn't help at all, we were forced to quit because he was disruptive and would hurt others. Biting, kicking scratching, screaming, punding, hitting he would go to all ends just because; after talking with various child psychologists and couple of pediatricians, we saw a lady spank her child at a support group. I was horrified, I thought he was going to blow up, then she sent him away and he cried like a normal child and went back to ruining action figures and humming while in his own little world. We have decided not to spare the rod, nothing works like physical punishment. When Logan does something hurtful to others he get swatted immediately. I feel bad, its almost like we are raising a puppy who doesn't love us, but, it works wonders and he can now play with others. Because he is autistic he demands more discipline, not less.Hmm i thought i was wrong. maybe your right? idkBeating a child is considered wrong. Spanking is a good tool if used carefully. Never spank when angry, know when spanking will and when it will not work (all children are different and respond to different disciplines. Spank on the bottom and do not leave bruises (abuse) Explain why a child was spanked when you have your "after talk". Don't use spanking as the 1st resort. If the love relationship is balanced with the discipline, spanking is okay. However, the balance is the priority and consider other options. Catch a child being good and reward with a hug or praise.Very well said!
My son is 11 and severely autistic. He is generally very happy, skips and dances, hums. He isn't violent to other children or, for that matter adults. The problem I am having right now is that he is getting into everything- He has pica, which I know is common in autistic children. He seems to know right from wrong, and knows he shouldn't eat things like perfume, air freshener, mouthwash, soap, hand sanitizer, etc. When I walk in and notice him eating things like this, he runs in his room or to his favorite chair and looks guilty. I am terrified that he will end up getting into something that will really make him sick, or worse. We have put locks on cabinets, put things up high... he is clever and sneaky, and gets into things anyway. I start with telling him "no, this isn't food." The next time, I give him a timeout. After that I try one more timeout, then eventually have to swat his butt. He whimpers a little, then sits in his room for a while. I go in, give him a big hug and tell him that I don't want to spank him, but I would rather spank him that have him land in the hospital or have his stomach pumped. After about 10 minutes he is wanting to sit on my lap and cuddle. In this case, I see no reason why not to spank as a last resort. I don't use anything but my open hand, and am always sure to hug him and reinforce his good behaviors. I hope this helps! Just be patient!I totaly agree with you. I use it as a last resort with my son as well and it kills me everytime i have to do it and its always only the one swat and just enough to get his attention.
My son is 4 years old and we have found that when he does something good the positive reenforcement works wonders, weather its a high five or telling him your proud of him (ex. while you are driving) he remembers. When he hits someone or throws things, which is something he likes to do when throwing a tantrum, he knows what the punishment is for that already and we talk to him about it and he tells us that he has to go in time out because of what he has done, we got to that point with him by being consistant and always having the same discipline for the same actions at all times.
I am not sure where to start. I have a 5 year old that is high functioning for autism. He is also non verbal. He goes to school three full days out of the week. Until school started at the end of august, He has become very agressive to people as in hitting, and head banging the other person, and not listening to his teachers. It hurts because i feel like im not doing what im supposed to as a parent. He is my first born, and i have been his only parent. I have open handed swatedt my son. I have tried to use time outs, but he will not sit for them even if i put him back in his time out spot. Swatting him seems to help at home, but not sure what the school should do on their part. Im very frustrated and dont know what to do. Need some advice. Thankx!My son is six with autisum . When he was four he didn't talk I put him In speech at Scottish Rite clinic in Duluth for his speech and his behavior that really help
my family a lot. Now when he does his bad behavior we set times and he sits in his spot . We started out low because he doesn't still well . If he hits he had to tell the person he sorry give them a high five or a hug . That help our family. I was so happy when my son could say mom that a day I will never for get. I pray a lot .
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